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Hello!

It's the holiday season, and I know you are probably feeling a little stressed. So, I wanted to share with you a light-hearted way to grow your validation muscles. This might be a strategy you could even take with you to your holiday functions and family events coming up.

Or, on a more serious note, it might even help you to be able to dive deep into an important topic with a loved one (instead of shutting down the conversation prematurely and not getting very far which is very common!). But first, holiday hours.

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• No blog or newsletter during the week of Christmas, and the week of New Year's. 

I was inspired to do today's blog after listening to a recent podcast episode by Dr. Loretta Breuning; specifically the one called Endorphin = Laughter = Improv (1). She is someone I have highlighted in a past blog, because she has the coolest videos that explain your brain's happy chemicals in an engaging and fun way. I also like them since she gives so many practical and simple strategies you can use to boost your happy brain chemicals. See my past post here: Great Resource Alert! Ever Wanted To Understand Your Brain's Happy Chemicals Better? (2). Or, you can go straight to her website to check out her videos here (3).

In Dr. Breuning's recent podcast she explored the topic of improv with her guest on the show. The guest explained the "yes and" principle of improv. This isn't the first time I have heard about this principle, but I thought it would be fun to explore it a little bit in the context of relationships, communication, and validation. Have you heard of it before? Second City has a brief description here about it (4). 

There is also a very interesting Tedx Talk on applying "yes and" to your life to increase creative problem-solving and innovation (and the speaker is pretty funny too!) (5): 

Just to comment on the above video and apply the info to counseling, I find that when people come into counseling they often feel very stuck in their problems. People frequently spend a huge amount of focus (and time) describing their problems, but often not an equivalent amount of time exploring creative solutions and ideas (usually not even close).

What's your ratio? How much time do you spend learning, cultivating a curious mindset, trying new things, and exploring outside the box ideas? Are you happy with that ratio? Do you feel that there is room for improvement? Or do you feel pretty good about your ratio?

That's why it's so helpful to be open to trying exercises that help you to get unstuck and to deepen dialogue. We ALL need innovative thinking whether it's at work or in our personal lives, because it's a fact of life that we all have daily problems to solve!

Check out this brief video explanation and demonstration of doing a "yes and" improv exercise. See below (6):

Essentially, with "yes and" as an exercise, you ​go along with what the other person is saying, and then you add to the story to move the same story one step further. If you are doing it in an improv game, it's well... entertaining and funny! It also keeps the laugh lines and story going instead of shutting down the interactions (which would get boring quick). If you say "no" and go off on a different topic, everything would grind to a halt. Essentially, the same thing can happen in our everyday conversations too!

Now, if you are working "yes and" into your conversations (as a general strategy) to improve empathy, validation, and creativity in your communication, you might think about the following:

• ​Facing the person you are talking to (just like in the video exercise above!). 
• Good eye contact.
• Putting your phone down.
• Turning the TV off.
• Uncrossing your arms and legs.
• Doing one thing at a time (the conversation you are having!); eliminate/reduce distractions.
• Sharing an example or similar situation related to what the other person just said (this would be a "yes" from the improv game).
• Being curious and asking lots of questions.
• Noticing your tone. Is it exited? Interested? Engaged? Enthusiastic? Or is it bored? Uncaring? Dismissive?
• You might even try saying "yes!"
• No interrupting. 
• Avoiding saying "that will never work."
• Stick to one topic; be careful not to change the topic to a completely new one. 
• How might a person feel when talking to you? That you care? That you genuinely want to know more? Or that you don't care and are uninterested?
• Paraphrasing to show you understand (summarizing what the other person said without adding your opinion), and then saying "that's so interesting, tell me more about such and such."
• Piggyback off of the ideas the other person has. What's the next step? Add to the creative solutions or ideas from your own perspective. Keep the dialogue going! 

"Yes and" as a general communication mindset, or when used as an improv exercise, is a fun way to improve your validation, empathy, and creative problem solving skills.  Whatever you do, have fun with it! We can all make improvements on expanding and deepening conversations instead of shutting down ideas and dialogue at the gate.

So... Any takers on trying out the "yes and" improv exercise at a holiday event? Have you personally done improv and are familiar with "yes and?" If so, any comments or lessons learned? Please share below! I'd love to hear from you.

​Thanks for joining me today. Happy holidays!! I wish you loads of love, laughter, joy, and fun. No blog or newsletter over the next couple weeks with the holidays. Talk to you in a few weeks.

​All the best,
​Holly ​

PS-Can I send you an email about once a week? The email will have a link to my latest blog post in case there is a topic you are interested in. As the business grows and I add more products and services, I will mention in the email what has been added.

References and Links
(1)https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/happy-brain-podcast/e/66012580?autoplay=true
(2)https://moxiepsychologylegacy.com/blog/great-resource-alert-ever-wanted-to-understand-your-brains-happy-chemicals-better
​(3)​https://innermammalinstitute.org/happypower/
(4)​https://www.secondcity.com/how-to-say-yes-and/
(5)​https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1SK_qNLx5U
(6)​https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qe2a3ppacUk

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Hello my brave community of Lega-Leaders (Relationship Legacy Leaders) who are changing the world, and the legacies handed to them, for the better right where they are! For more information about Relationship Legacy Leaders, please read my past blog posts: 5 easy ways to start being a relationship legacy leader right now (1), what is a relationship legacy leader (2), or the deeper meaning behind the name MoxiePsychology Legacy (3). 

In today's blog, I have an exercise that will help grow your self-awareness, shine some light on a potential blind spot of yours, and improve your relationships. I want to get you thinking about your biggest strength, and what the dark side of that strength might be. You just might have a glaring blind spot!!

The truth is, we all have blind spots (me included). If you cannot admit to having blind spots, then you might need to work on your self-awareness and your ability to grow and accept feedback. Did you know that in our training as therapists we are encouraged to continuously work on and be aware of our blind spots? This is so we do not accidentally significantly harm others through our blindness. I think this is important and beneficial for everyone to work on (not just therapists)!

The reason I want to get you thinking about this, is that rarely are things cut and dry or black and white. In my experience as a relationship therapist I see and read about examples of this every day. I think that having an extreme strength is an example where it is mostly beneficial (and extremely helpful) for one’s life; however, there is often a significant downside that needs to be acknowledged and explored (especially when it comes to relationships and in leadership positions) in order to prevent accidental harm to others from our blind spots.

A personality trait or strength may be extremely beneficial in one context, but an extreme detriment in another. Often in our romantic relationships, our partner knows exactly what that detriment is, because he or she sees us at our best and at our worst. Same goes for any close relationships we may have (family, friends, work relationships, etc.).

Although, there is a difference for work relationships... They they usually get our highest performing selves while our family sees us at the end of the work day when we are physically and emotionally depleted. As you can imagine, this can create some problems if we are not aware of or sensitive to this dynamic! Our weaknesses and negative aspects of our personality can be more likely to come out after a long day. 

Many times when we are dating, we are attracted to a certain strong quality (or qualities) about someone, and it may even be a quality that is the exact polar opposite of our own! Initially, this can lead to fireworks, romance, and passion, but as the relationship matures and grows, these differences must be worked through in a way that feels good to both parties. Furthermore, as time goes on these differences may even now be the source of significant frustration and hurt. What once was a quality that was so attractive is now the quality that bothers you the most (or maybe drives you crazy)! Every couple has to find a way to navigate these difference in order to be happy and satisfied over the long run.

I think that if you are in a marriage and you want to grow in your personal self-awareness, as well as in the strength of your relationship overall, it’s helpful to have an understanding and acceptance of who you each are. Actually, I believe it’s vital to the success of your marriage or relationship.

Why? One, so you both can avoid getting to the place where your differences tear you apart until you break up or divorce. Two, to help you approach one another with understanding and good listening skills, and to not try to expect something that the other person just cannot give or do well. Three, to create meaningful dialogue that supports win-win scenarios that involves capitalizing on each other’s strengths to solve problems successfully.

Especially in regards to extreme strengths or strong aspects of our personality (for example, introvert versus an extrovert), these are things that themselves cannot be changed much (if at all). What can be discussed, explored, and changed is HOW you discuss them, and how you work with each other’s natural tendencies to find better solutions.

You need to find ways to roll with each others differences instead of rolling OVER each other with your one way of doing things.

Ready to grow and discuss what you have learned? Feel brave enough to shine a light on a potential blind spot? Don’t be scared! Lega-Leaders let’s do this!

Step 1:
Name one of your biggest strengths or strongest beneficial personality attributes.

Step 2:
List out why you believe this strength or helpful personality attribute really stands out. What is the evidence, and what are the facts supporting this belief?

Step 3:
How has this significantly benefited YOU in your life in general? If you are doing this exercise to understand yourself better as a leader, you should also list out how your example has helped you personally in leading at work, in a group you are in charge of, or as a parent (parents are leaders!). If you are doing this in the context of a romantic relationship, you would want to list out how this has benefited you in your relationship.

Step 4:
How has_________________(your answer from step 1) significantly benefited others in your life?

Step 5:
Are there any extreme tendencies or personality attributes that you demonstrate that go along with your strength? (For example, you have a strength that you are a very hard worker and always make sure to get the job done, no matter what. Even if the job takes 12 hours, you will get it done in one day which has led to career growth and financial stability.)

Step 6:
What do you see as the dark side (or potential drawbacks) to your strength or personality attribute?

If you are having a hard time with this, you might think of your strength in terms of it’s opposite… Maybe you are extremely creative, innovative, and dislike structure, and this has greatly benefited your career and relationships. However, you find that you let people down when you need to follow a certain path or procrastinate when you need to follow the rules (following rules and structure is the opposite of your strength). 

Step 7:
What feedback or constructive criticism have you received about the downside of your strength or personality attribute? Have you ever received any?

Sometimes when you are in a position of power people may be hesitant to give you honest feedback, unless honest and respectful feedback has been developed as part of that system (work, school, home, etc.) from the beginning. Something to note and be aware of…

Step 8:
How has___________________(your answer from step 1) negatively impacted those around you in the past? Can you think of any specific examples? Any present problems currently?

Step 9:
How might___________________ (your answer from step 1) potentially negatively impact future circumstances or relationships?

Step 10:
Given your answers above, in a few sentences, summarize a blind spot that you have that springs from a huge strength of yours or a strong personality attribute:

Step 11:
Now that you have awareness of the dark side of your strength or personality attribute, how can you use this to develop better win-win scenarios with others in your life moving forward? List out all the ideas you can think of!

Being honest and acknowledging your tendencies is a good place to start!

Step 12:
Given your greater awareness of the downsides of your strengths or personality attributes, how can this help you to grow your empathy and understanding for people who are different than you (who have different personalities and strengths)?

It can often be easier to be more understanding of our own weaknesses than other people’s, which is why I am picking your brain for ideas on how you can be more empathetic.  

Step 13:
How can you use your increased self-awareness on the dark side of your strongest strengths or personality attributes to now find ways to mitigate (or lessen) the harmful effects of that dark side? How can you lessen the blow so to speak...?

Step 14:
Do you have someone you could share these answers with? Who? Would he or she be willing to give you some constructive and respectful feedback on the topic?

In Summary
I hope this exercise was enlightening for you! I also hope that you pair this exercise with a huge dose of love, and overflowing understanding for yourself and others. This exercise can be a practice in fully embracing yourself and all the complexities that make you who you are. You are not good or bad, you are whole as you are!

There is no shame in being you. This often includes having a strength in one area that makes us not as good in something else. That’s okay. That’s life, and we are all in the same boat! And life in that boat would be BORING if we were all the same. We are often drawn to others exactly because they are different than us, and other people are attracted to us because we are different than them.

​People love you exactly for who you are—so be you! Just like you love people for who they are (even with their warts). 

This world needs more Lega-Leaders like you who are daily finding ways to celebrate each other’s strengths, and who are driven to find ways to collaborate even though we are different and not perfect.

Lega-Leaders, what do you have to say about this topic?
Thanks for joining me today. As a lega-leader, what blind spots have you discovered? Are you in a long-term romantic relationship, family relationship, or friendship where you both have completely opposite strengths or personalities (introvert vs. extrovert, loud vs. quiet, organized and logical vs. messy and creative, etc.)? Any opposite attributes that drive you a little crazy? What do you believe are good ways to develop win-win scenarios that elevate everyone’s positive attributes and strengths (instead of being driven bonkers by them)? I would love to hear your ideas! Please share, because your ideas and solutions may help someone else!
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All the best,
​Holly
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​PS- Can I send you an email about once a week? The email will have a link to my latest blog post in case there is a topic you are interested in. As the business grows and I add more products and services, I will mention in the email what has been added. 

​References and Links
(1)https://moxiepsychologylegacy.com/blog/5-easy-ways-to-start-being-a-relationship-legacy-leader-right-now
(2)https://moxiepsychologylegacy.com/blog/what-is-a-relationship-legacy-leader
(3)https://moxiepsychologylegacy.com/blog/the-deeper-meaning-behind-the-name-moxiepsychology-legacy

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​Do you value psychological health and thriving relationships? If you do, then read on. Today I will discuss 5 easy (and impactful) ways to start being a relationship legacy leader right now (1). You might be someone who values strong relationships, but you would love some inspirational ideas where to start. Or maybe you are a manager or CEO who is looking for ways to connect with your employees. You might even be a parent looking for some tips for nurturing a healthy family. 
  
To review or if you are new (welcome!), a relationship legacy leader is:
Someone who is committed to healthy relationships and emotional health for themselves, and also for the people around them. These progressive leaders deeply value thriving and resilient relationships, but are also keenly aware of the relational and emotional impact they have on other people: their partner or spouse, friends, relatives, co-workers, people in their community, kids, etc. These leaders know that in order to collaborate effectively, achieve the greatest growth, and to experience meaning and satisfaction out of life it takes growing our relationship and emotional skills. They intentionally seek out where they can make a difference, and make a conscious choice to do something positive. Whether the impact is on a few people or many, they know it all matters.   

Seriously, whether your impact is mainly with your close family members or you are a CEO of a large company, it’s all important. What you do matters. The small steps and changes you make are significant, and can completely change your life and the lives of those around you. For example, can you think back to something that someone did or said that completely changed your life in a positive way? Was there a close friend, a coach, a mentor, or a teacher that had a positive impact on you? What did they say or do? That person made a personal choice to say or do what they did; it wasn’t an accident. You can make choices like that too.

5 easy ways to start being a relationship legacy leader right now:
1. Learn how to recognize and label different emotions within yourself. How many can you name?

• This article on the Harvard Business Review contains a nice simple list of emotions to start with and memorize (2). 
• Identifying emotions within yourself is one of the first steps to greater self-awareness and greater empathy for the experiences of others. This in turn leads to better leadership and a stronger connection with others.
• Labeling our emotions is important if we want to utilize our emotions as a source of helpful information (harness the power of your emotions—they are telling you something!). This is in contrast to our emotions at the wheel driving our thoughts and behaviors in ways we don't understand, like, or want.
• After you have practiced identifying your own emotions, use that knowledge base to grow your empathy and start working on identifying others' emotions.
• Work with your kids on identifying and naming their own emotions in a kind and curious manner. Just like you are practicing with yourself, help them notice their emotion and come up with some different ideas or solutions. 
• If you are a leader at work, in your community, or in politics, have an open discussion about the emotions occurring on a particular topic. Model exploring emotions. Teach others about labeling their emotions. Encourage others to label and discuss their emotions, and also encourage the use of emotions as one source of helpful information for problem solving.

2. Learn how to recognize and label when you are HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, and tired).

• Like the author of this blog post, I too learned about HALT when I was working in a substance treatment agency (3). I helped my clients learn about HALT and how to address these states, in order to help prevent a relapse.
• HALT doesn't just apply to relapse prevention; I still use this acronym in many situations. I use it when I counsel couples. I also ask myself daily if I'm feeling HALT whenever I am feeling a strong emotion to see if I need to eat, take a break, talk to someone, etc. When my daughter, who is 3, experiences a strong emotion or behavior, I think about HALT as well. It guides my parenting.
• HALT is so useful to know because it is often at the source of strong emotions. It's helpful data: figure out how much is HALT and how much is the situation at hand. The answer will depend on what's going on at the moment, and you can use that information wisely (instead of emotionally reacting). Every time you are experiencing a strong emotion, ask yourself if HALT is driving your feelings and reactions. If so, which specific ones, and how much of each? Are you starving and cranky because you missed lunch? Have you had several long days at work and feeling exhausted, and now you are lashing out at your family? What are the most effective ways that you work through HALT in your own life? Do you have effective ways of handling hunger and tiredness, but not loneliness? If loneliness is a challenge for you, how can you work on that? 
• HALT can be used with children. As adults we need to set appropriate consequences and boundaries, but equally we need to try to get underneath their behavior to discover the reason for it. If we only set consequences and do not try to understand the behavior, our efforts simply will not be as effective. HALT helps us to better support our children's needs and leads to greater empathy and understanding for our kids. It's too easy for us as adults to just get frustrated with our children's behavior—often there's a reason for our child's choices. Identifying if HALT is at play will help you implement more effective parenting solutions instead of just getting angry and blaming/shaming. Are they feeling hungry? Do they need a help labeling and coping with their feelings of anger and frustration? 
• Don't have important conversations when you are feeling HALT. Everything you say will be colored. Self-care first. 
• Finally, HALT can prevent us from lashing out at someone or even assigning incorrect blame to someone. Can you think of a time when you were feeling HALT and it strongly altered the whole way you viewed a situation (or a person)? And then once you addressed HALT you maybe had a more accurate and fair perspective? Now, there are definitely times when we need to talk to someone and hold them accountable for something—I am a strong advocate of constructive communication and giving genuine and meaningful feedback (I work with all couples on this). But, before giving feedback, we need to ask ourselves how much of our own HALT is playing a role in the strong feelings.
• When you were growing up, if you had parents who tended to meet your physical and psychological needs, you might be a little better at recognizing HALT and doing self-care (and not feel guilty about it). If you did not have parents who modeled self-care, and did not teach you the importance of meeting your psychological needs, you may need more practice. If you are in that boat, practice giving yourself permission to do self-care and consistently address your needs. 
• HALT is just a good thing to regularly assess within ourselves throughout the day.

3. Be curious. Curiosity goes hand in hand with empathy, understanding, and eventually better choices and decisions.

• Brené Brown said in her book Dare to Lead: "As we push on these issues and discover our own blind spots (we all have them), we need to stay very aware of the armor assembly process here: We cannot practice empathy if we need to be knowers; if we can't be learners, we cannot be empathic" (Brown, 2018, p. 145) (4).
• Who are the leaders we like and who inspire us to be better? The leaders who understand us, are curious about us, and who really care. You can be like that too with your kids, friends, co-workers, partner, or with your community.
• What does curiosity look like? It's asking questions and not just assuming you know everything. Be curious in a non-judgmental and non-hostile way. Curiosity doesn't mean you necessarily agree with everything the other person says. Especially when you have a different opinion be aware of the tone you are using.
• Be curious about both yourself and other people. 
• Warmth and curiosity brings people together, and being someone who knows everything pushes people apart (and can even destroy relationships). 
• Practice curiosity the next time you feel a little upset or confused about something. Ask questions with warmth, and practice setting your pride aside for a moment. 

4. Use the phrase “I’m glad you told me."

• This phrase comes from another helpful quote in Brené Brown's Dare to Lead book: "If I share something that's difficult for me, I'd rather you say, "I don't even know what to say right now, I'm just so glad you told me." Because in truth, a response can rarely make something better. Connection is what heals." (Brown, 2018, pp. 141-142) (5).
• I like the phrase "I'm glad you told me" because it can be applied in so many situations... When your child shares something hard for her or something she's excited about. When your employee notices a problem and shares a helpful and innovative solution for fixing it. When your partner shares something painful he or she is going though, or a concern he or she has.
• The phrase opens up dialogue and encourages open communication in a variety of situations. 
• Think you can put your pride aside and use the phrase when your child, spouse, or employee has a concern they are sharing with you? What about if it's something about you personally that they have a concern with? It would be good practice in encouraging open and curious dialogue by saying the phrase "I'm glad you told me," even when it's a painful or difficult topic.  
• When you use this phrase, others around you will use it too. How many times have your kids said something that you have said, or done what you have done? This would be a good phrase to start saying with the people in  your life. It will catch on and benefit the entire system. This also applies in workplaces, churches, in our communities, and in politics. 

5. Fess up when you mess up—every time (for the rest of your life).

• This just means whenever you notice you said or did something hurtful, you apologize for it. Every time. Even if the other person probably knows you are sorry, still saying something so that the issue can cool off and turn into something that's forgotten instead of a major wound that could possibly end the relationship. 
• Apologize appropriately. Don't take responsibility for someone else's actions. Don't over or under take responsibility. Practice owning up to exactly your part, and that's it. 
• This is one of my (many) Holly-isms. I am such an advocate for each of us holding ourselves accountable for our own actions. Obviously, we know this is probably important and good advice. However, I think I am so strongly in favor of this because of all my experience working with couples... When couples use this and stop finger pointing every other sentence, we get some real work done. I have seen a lot of couples in my office work through a wide variety of topics. And I can tell you that the differentiating factor between a successful discussion and an unsuccessful discussion was whether or not each person came forward and honestly admitted where they hurt each other and where they each could positively contribute to resolving the situation. That's it. Putting pride and ego aside is essential. It takes practice though (especially when we have been hurt), and it's easier said than done. 
• Fess up when you mess up—every time (for the rest of your life), helps to combat the urge to hurt others when we are hurt, because it forces us to always have to acknowledge our role. As a side note, in cases of abuse, there is a clear cut situation of one person hurting the other. The victim in no way should take any responsibility for any abuse. But in most other relationships, we each need to think about where we are accountable and hold ourselves accountable (out loud) for our relationships to thrive and be successful. 
• Doing this admits that we are all human. We all make mistakes (big and small). That's okay. It's not about being perfect (which is impossible), what I am more concerned about is that the error was acknowledged and genuinely apologized for. This helps the issue to dissipate, and may even help the relationship to be stronger. Not apologizing significantly weakens your relationships. It's not an exaggeration that apologizing each time you hurt someone can prevent many unnecessary relationship breakups.

​I hope the five ways to start being a relationship legacy leader inspired some ideas for you. I truly hope you can visualize where you can start making some simple changes. The ideas above are simple, but powerful when implemented. 

There are so many reasons why I think being a relationship legacy leader is important, and why each of us doing our part is important. Today I will just mention one—as a way to change the culture of mass shootings and school shootings we are seeing in our country and across the world.

To me, as a therapist, I see these shootings as another reason why it’s important for all of us to take care of our mental health, to destigmatize mental health care, to destigmatize discussing feelings, and to encourage teaching our young kids about emotions (especially boys—they have been hurt for too long by shaming them for having feelings besides anger).

I don’t know about you, but when I see the news of another school shooting or a mass shooting, I feel heartbroken and devastated. Sometimes I even cry. I cried when I heard the news of the shootings at the two mosques in Christchurch, New Zealand.

This week there was a school shooting at the University of North Carolina Charlotte (6). There are likely some important legal changes that need to be made, but what can we do right now (no matter where we fall on the political spectrum)? I believe that each of us, in whatever corner of the world we are in, can start to make a difference now—even on a topic as big as school and mass shootings. How? By being a relationship legacy leader in whatever corner of the world we are in.

Psychology is all around us. Our psychological and relationship health matters. Psychology is not a "soft science;" it's a vital science for the success of the human race. Viewing psychology as a "soft science" has been a massive blind spot for us, and has led to the denial of the importance of mental health and relationship health. The good news is, we can all do something, starting right now. 

In summary, you can be a relationship legacy leader by:
1. Learning how to recognize and label different emotions within yourself. 
2. Learning how to recognize and label when you are HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, or tired). 
3. Being curious. 
4. Using the phrase "I'm glad you told me." 
5. Fessing up when you mess up—every time (for the rest of your life). 

So, think about what we explored today. Have a discussion with people you trust about being a relationship legacy leader. Print out the article as a guide if that's helpful. Who do you want to start impacting positively? What is one small thing you can do right now? Do it. It matters. Remember that the people who positively impacted you made a personal choice to do so. 

Please share if you are thinking of implementing one of these 5 ideas or if today's blog inspired you to make some changes. Looking forward to reading your comments.

Thank you for joining me today! If this post was helpful, please hit the Facebook Like button below or share the blog on Twitter. 

Talk to you next week. 

All the best,
​Holly L. Harrison ​

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References and Links
(1)https://moxiepsychologylegacy.com/blog/what-is-a-relationship-legacy-leader
(2)https://hbr.org/2016/11/3-ways-to-better-understand-your-emotions
(3)https://healthypsych.com/h-a-l-t-hungry-angry-lonely-and-tired-a-self-care-tool/
(4)Brown, B. (2018). Dare to lead: Brave work. Tough conversations. Whole hearts [Kindle SDK 6.0.1 version]. Retrieved from Amazon.com. 
(5)Brown, B. (2018). Dare to lead: Brave work. Tough conversations. Whole hearts [Kindle SDK 6.0.1 version]. Retrieved from Amazon.com. ​
​(6)​https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/01/us/unc-charlotte-shooting.html?module=inline